The emphasis on women following men really gets under my skin, and that's the majority of these articles I'm compiling. I guess I'm rankled in general about how un-unique my situation is, and if it wasn't so common, maybe I'd feel differently and would have better/different resources. How can I properly articulate this?
I am a person. I'm nearing 30, with a degree, a good job (but not necessarily a career yet) and a spouse. I like my house and my town. I like to cook and ride my bike.
But since I'm a female person, my resources and advice aren't the same as a man. And there really isn't as much to tell a man (sorry dudes, that really is the short end of the stick) because it's mostly women following men to a new place. And there really isn't that much of an infrastructure to counsel us, because it's just expected that we follow. So what's the fuss?
I have a fuss! This isn't easy. I'm not just following blythely. I'm not even following completely happily. There should be books on this, obvious answers/counsel. But there's not, and it's because of shitty expectations.
If this is a post-feminist world, then I'm Shirley Maclaine*.
*Maybe in another life?