So when you're meeting people in your new town, and maybe you haven't gotten a job yet or have anything newsworthy going on, don't talk about that. When the inevitable question comes up, "So what do you do?" don't bury yourself under your spouse's job or belittle your circumstances. Be proud of what you used to do, say what you want to do. Be confident! No one is going to ask probing questions about your job status or choice to follow someone you love (and if they do, they are an ass and you don't need them.)
You're an adult, and life changes. Be the confident person you were before you may have been shaken up by this move. It's just one more change life throws at you, except you're catching that ball while running.
You've got nothing to be ashamed of.
No one is "just" a wife.
You may not be making your own money for a while, but that doesn't make you less of a citizen.
Doing something crazy and new? Own it. Do you think people cared about the fact that my business was really fledgling and I wasn't sure if it was a good idea? No, they were interested in what the business was and how I got it started.
Find something you're proud of and don't belittle it by pretending you aren't proud.
I hope anyone who is currently in the anticipation stage of moving for a spouse's job is going alright, and it's ok if you aren't doing alright. It's a weird time, and you'll have to find your way of dealing. Just know there's people that understand, and I'm one you can talk to if you need to vent. Click on the "Contact Me" button, and dish away.
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This is real, and it will change.
